I love Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Marsha Linehan was right on point with this therapy. It teaches you mindfulness, self-awareness, distress tolerance, emotion regulation and interpersonal relationship skills.
Self-Soothing is a great way to relax, elevate our mood, just make yourself feel better using your five senses. Listen to soothing music when you feel anxious and invigorating music when you are feeling down or lacking motivation. Take a walk in the park. Pull out your diffuser and pick your favorite scent, I love the peppermint, or you can light a scented candle or if you in a groovy kind of mood burn some incense. Eat your favorite food, snack or candy. Take a long hot bath or shower, lotion your hands or pet your pet.
Body Scan meditation Step by Step
Sit on a chair, or lie on your back on the floor with legs uncrossed. Put your arms in a comfortable position by your side, on your abdomen, or (if sitting) put them on your thighs palms up. Open your eyes partially to let light in. If you are lying on the floor, put a cushion under your knees if need be. Imagine your breath flowing to each part of your body as your attention gently moves up your body. Adopt a mind of curiosity and interest as you focus on each part of your body. Focus on your breathing. Notice how the air moves in and out of your body.
•• Take several deep breaths until you begin to feel comfortable and relaxed. •• Direct your attention to the toes of your left foot. •• Notice the sensations in that part of your body while remaining aware of your breathing. •• Imagine each breath flowing to your toes. •• Looking with curiosity, ask, “What am I feeling in this part of my body?” •• Focus on your left toes for several minutes.
•• Then move your focus to the arch and heel of your left foot, and hold it there for a minute or two while continuing to pay attention to your breathing. •• Notice the sensations on your skin of warmth or coldness; notice the weight of your foot on the floor. •• Imagine your breath flowing to the arch and heel of your left foot. •• Ask, “What are the feelings in the arch and heel of my left foot?”
•• Follow the same procedure as you move to your left ankle, calf, knee, upper legs, and thigh. •• Repeat with the right leg, starting with your toes. •• Then move through your pelvis, and lower back, and around to your stomach. •• Focus on the rising and falling of your belly as your breath goes in and out. •• Then go on to your chest; left hand, arm, and shoulder; right hand, arm, and shoulder; neck, chin, tongue, mouth, lips, and lower face; and nose. •• Notice your breath as it comes in and out of your nostrils. •• Then focus on your upper cheeks, eyes, forehead, and scalp.
•• Finally, focus on the very top of your hair. •• Then let go of your body altogether.
Don’t worry if you notice that thoughts, sounds, or other sensations come into your awareness. Just notice them and then gently refocus your mind. Don’t worry if your mind has been drawn away from the object of your attention and you find yourself thinking about something else (it nearly always happens). Just calmly, gently, but with resolution, turn your mind back to the part of the body you’ve reached. You may need to bring your attention back over and over. You are not alone in this. It is this bringing of your attention back over and over and over, without judgment or harshness, that is the essential element of the meditation.